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"But that's because it is a value oriented specification — not a preference in eye color."Perhaps that's the problem — "type" is a somewhat antiquated term, and it usually refers to someone's visual or professional preferences. "Ask yourself, 'How has going after my type worked so far?
"'Type' is for what kind of movie star you’re attracted to," Tina B. Romance, psychotherapist and author of Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences , tells Bustle. ' If the answer is not so good, then start thinking outside the box." If you always wind up dating actors, try to just give someone a chance without asking what they do."Try entertaining the thought of dating a person who isn’t your type, per se, but who actually seems like an interesting, kind, fun, successful human being," Sansone-Braff suggests.
If you tend to fall into dating the same kinds of people over and over, in a word — stop."I encourage my clients to get crystal-clear on their values and focus on how the man makes her feel and treats her," she says."In this way, expanding outside of her type allows for the relationship she desires to reveal itself sooner." So if you're set on a type, let it go — you'll have a better shot at finding someone actually worth your time."People do tend to have types, especially if they live in homogenous communities," New York–based relationship expert and author April Masini tells Bustle."For instance, if you keep dating married men, you’ve got a type — married men." Let's all hope that is not your type, for your heart's sake.
"If you keep dating wealthy men who are conservative, you’ve got a type." Definitely not my type.
"People do talk about dating your type, but I think it is the wrong way to go, and a pattern to be broken," Better Help telehealth counselor and psychologist Nikki Martinez tells Bustle.