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It's a break from the usual, and what makes our best relationships UN-usual. You seem to have an overarching preference for the rational use of clear language.
I understand but sometimes I prefer something else.
Sometimes it's "dancing about architecture" as someone said about people who write about music. I know I don't-- and my needs are VERY few-- I don't crave attention at ALL (possibly less than OP) and I don't need "one-on-one" time and I don't need compliments or specific gestures.
But you're thinking about it from the negative place of misunderstanding-- maybe it's something that has lead to conflict in the past. As in, I prefer the company of people who get me and have a rhythm with me. What I DO need is for my people to be cool, handle themselves with humor and grace and not embarrass me, preferably without a lesson.
Shit and since when were INTJ's the chatty ones?
Leave my ENFP ass alone can I just drink my overpriced beer in SILENCE for a minute?!
His brushing under the rug could be him processing internally before he feels ready to address whatever is going on.
Especially if he is wary of your (self-acknowledged) over analytical / blunt way of processing things.
While they are popular, they tend to not care about popularity when selecting their mates.In my experiece a relationship with ENFPs consists in:-No personal mental space.They think they are aware of changes in emotion, but they will ask you what's happening even when you have a neutral face and nothing is going on.-No exclusivity because in name of authenticity they may treat everyone like is their damn best friend since they were born even though they've just met them last week.-They won't wait until you ask them "how is it going" they'll tell you what happens to them the second it happens and probably without even processing it.-They often blame others or "the system" for what's happening to them.-They are very fond of toxic people, and that's why they can date INTJs or similar personalities (sometimes).-They act like they love almost everyone, but yet they will talk shit about them with you because you're his or her partner.As an ENFP male (also in a relationship with an INTJ) I'd say that he probably considers seeing your warm and fuzzy side normal - and thus isn't making a big fuss when you express yourself (because it's things running smoothly in his eyes).
He'd only be speaking up when he doesn't see this side of you anymore because it would make him question if something has happened to make you close off emotionally from him.He probably isn't aware of how unusual it is for you to share this side to someone - if you explained this fact to him, I'm sure he would show more of the enthusiasm that he seems to be lacking. They are systems builders and logic deconstructors.I would say a solely logical analysis of your ENFP will always reach an inevitable dead end. Emotional honesty is not the same thing as rational truth, and trying to put an ENFP (highly emotional) through a lens that only assesses rationality will come up short every time.ENFPs are astutely aware of changes in emotion from the close people in their life, especially their partners.